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What is a Loop?
What is a Loop?
A loop is a repeated emotional and nervous system response that shows up when something feels stressful or unsafe.
Loops aren’t choices or personality traits.
They’re patterns your system learned to protect you.
Once a loop is activated, your body reacts quickly, often before you can think. Relief usually comes from coping strategies like pulling away, pushing harder, overthinking, or shutting down.
Understanding your loop helps you recognize what’s happening and respond with more awareness instead of getting pulled into the same cycle.
Worth Proving Loop
How it shows up in daily life
You respond to stress or conflict by doing more or trying harder. You may focus on fixing, achieving, or being better to feel secure or valued. Rest feels uncomfortable, and your sense of worth often rises and falls with performance or approval.
Hide and Hope Loop
How it shows up in daily life
When things feel overwhelming, you withdraw. You avoid conversations, delay decisions, or disappear emotionally, hoping the situation will settle on its own. Distance brings temporary relief, even though the underlying issue remains.
Trauma Magnet Loop
How it shows up in daily life
You feel drawn to certain people or situations even when they don’t feel good for you. Familiar dynamics feel intense or meaningful, while calmer ones feel flat or uncertain. You may stay longer than you want to, hoping things will change, or find yourself repeating the same relationship patterns over and over.
Urgency Loop
How it shows up in daily life
You feel pressure to fix things immediately. Waiting feels unbearable, especially during conflict or uncertainty. You may push for answers, decisions, or reassurance, and feel anxious or restless until something is resolved or moving forward.
Strong One Loop
How it shows up in daily life
You rely on yourself and keep your feelings contained. When conflict or disappointment happens, you pull back emotionally and decide to handle things on your own. You may appear capable and steady on the outside while carrying a lot internally.
Thought Storm Loop
How it shows up in daily life
Your mind keeps replaying conversations, decisions, or what-ifs. You analyze tone, timing, and meaning, trying to understand what went wrong or what might happen next. Relief comes only when things finally make sense or your mind quiets.
Peace Keeper Loop
How it shows up in daily life
You focus on keeping things calm and avoiding conflict. You may soften your words, minimize your needs, or take responsibility for others’ feelings. You often feel relieved when everyone else is okay, even if you feel overlooked or drained.
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